Chapter VIII Love is not Prone to Anger

by Saint Alphonsus Liguori

Those who love Jesus Christ are
not
prone to anger. What controls their
reaction to the contradictions in
life is the virtue of meekness,
which was treated in Chapter II
under the aspect of kindness.
However, since meekness is a
virtue that demands constant
practice, it will be considered
here even more thoroughly.
Humility and
meekness were the favorite
virtues of
Jesus Christ, which is why He
told His disciples: "Take
up My yoke upon you, and learn of Me, because I am meek, and humble of
heart: and you shall find rest to your souls" - Matthew
11:29. The entire life of Jesus Christ
is an example of meekness. But this
is especially true during His
Passion; while on the
Cross, He
begged His Eternal Father: "Father,
forgive them, for they know not what they do" - Luke
23:34.
How dear to Jesus Christ are
those persons who, in suffering injury
and insult, and even
persecution, are not
irritated by those who
oppress them. This is why
God is always ready to hear the
prayer of the
meek: "Blessed are the meek: for
they shall possess the land" - Matthew 5:4.
The saints do not resent
those who treat them with contempt;
in fact, they love them even more.
And the Lord, in turn, gives them
interior peace. The
proud, on the other hand, are always
vindictive, because they have a
high opinion of their own worth, and think that they
deserve honor in proportion to their own
conceit.
Saint Paul wrote to the Philippians: "And
the peace of God, which surpasseth all understanding, keep your hearts
and minds in Christ Jesus" - Philippians 4:7. Those
who love Jesus Christ easily find
this peace, even in the midst of
contempt, because they are
completely united to the
will of God. Accepting all
circumstances with equal peace of mind,
they enjoy a treasure more priceless
than the whole world.
To remain united with
Jesus Christ we must abide in
peace even in the midst of the
contradictions we encounter in our
daily lives. The Lord can not
live in a troubled
heart. Listen, then, to the
beautiful lesson given on this subject by the master of
meekness, Saint Francis de Sales:
"Never open the door to anger for any reason,
because once it gains admittance, it is no longer in our power to close
the door". Here are three ways
to avoid anger:
Divert
your mind to something else immediately.
Imitate
the apostles when they experienced the storm at sea and turn to
God,
Who will restore your peace.
Struggle
to regain your composure and then resolve to be
kind toward the person who has
irritated you.
Anger remains a long time
in the hearts of those who have
little love for
God. But if
it happens to enter the
heart of one who really
loves Jesus Christ,
it is quickly extinguished. Those
who freely love the
Redeemer never
surrender to quick temper since they
want only what God wants; they have
everything they could possibly desire, and so they always remain
sensibly calm. The divine will is
their tranquilizer in every
difficulty that arises, enabling
them to practice meekness toward
everyone they meet . But we know by experience that we cannot
grow in gentleness toward others unless we
first increase the tenderness of our
love for
Jesus Christ.
Prayer and Practicality
Now, since we cannot always experience this
tenderness, we must prepare ourselves, in our
prayer, to bear the crosses
that we will encounter. The saints did so, and thus they
were prepared to accept patiently
injury and
contempt. When we are insulted,
unless we have disciplined ourselves
beforehand, we will find it extremely
difficult to avoid
yielding to anger. On the spur of
the moment, anger will make it seem
logical to give a cutting answer to
the person who insults us. But, as
Saint John Chrysostom reminds us: "One
fire does not put out another".
Still, as we all know, there are times when it seems absolutely
necessary to answer insolence with
severity. Occasions do occur when we
may resort to righteous anger. But this we must remember: It may
sometimes be expedient - speculatively speaking - to answer someone
severely; but in practice it is very
difficult to do so without some
fault on our part.
We should take great care to practice
meekness, especially when we are corrected, either by
those who hold authority over us, or by our friends. Saint Francis de
Sales writes: "To receive a correction
cheerfully proves that we love the virtue in which we have failed. And,
consequently, this is an indication of growth in holiness".
We should even practice meekness
toward ourselves in this case.
Anger at ourselves is a
deceit of the Devil to
make us think that it is somehow virtuous
to act in this way after we have committed
a fault.
Gentleness is even more important
when we must correct others. Corrections made in
anger often do more
harm than
good, especially when the person corrected is also
excited. In such a case, the correction should be postponed.
If we correct others when we are angry
ourselves, our correction will always be mixed with
harshness, and the
person being corrected will, consequently, ignore our admonition.
We must prove how dearly we love Jesus
Christ by meekly and
gladly accepting every kind of injury
and contempt.

"O my God, make me a saint"
Saint Alphonsus Mary Liguori

Prayer
My Redeemer, your example
teaches those who love You that contempt from others is something to be
desired. I promise you, from now on, to submit to every insult - out of
love for You. Give me the strength to keep this promise. Help me to know
and carry out what You desire from me.
My God and my all, I desire no
other good but You. Give me the grace to wish only to please You. Help
me to avoid whatever might offend You and seek whatever gives You
pleasure. Save me from everything that might distract me from Your love.
I consecrate my free will entirely to Your good will.
I love You, O Incarnate Word; I
love You more than myself. Have pity on me and heal the wounds of my
poor soul, for I have been unfaithful to Your love. I surrender myself
into Your arms, O my Jesus. I want to suffer everything in Your love. I
seek only Your love.
Holy Virgin and my Mother Mary,
I love you and I rely on you. Intercede for me with your Divine Son.
Amen
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